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Relationships and Managing Conflict

You can find below a selection of helpful resources.
Please note that whilst we hope that these resources are useful, the Counselling Service does not endorse the opinions expressed by other parties.

You will also find a clip about managing Anger more effectively at the end of this page.

 

UCS LEAFLETS

 

WEBSITES

Broken Rainbow

Helpguide - Relationships

Madly In Love

Stop Relationship Abuse

The Student Room

 BISH - A Guide to Sex, Love and You

 

SUPPORT

Relate Cambridge: 3 Brooklands Ave, Cambridge CB2 8BB
Tel: 01223 357424
Open Mon-Fri: 9am-9pm; Sat: 9am-1pm
Cambridge Relate Branch

Support and counselling for individuals or couples experiencing relationship difficulties. Sex therapy service and drop-in counselling also available. Open to everyone regardless of their ability to pay.

 

OTHER RESOURCES

Mind - A-Z Mental Health Leaflets

Mood Juice Anger Self Help Guide

Northumberland, Tyne and Wear NHS Self Help Guide
Abuse
Controlling Anger
Domestic Violence
Shyness and Social Anxiety

 

BOOKS

Disclaimer

The descriptions given are intended to provide a summary of the contents but should not be taken to imply that the Counselling Service endorses the opinions expressed.


Toxic Parents
Susan Forward, Bantam, 2010

Dr. Forward writes about the painful legacy left by parents seen as inadequate, and suggests self-help techniques for children who may wish to leave the past behind.

 

 


Nonviolent Communication: A Language of Life
Marshall B Rosenberg, 2015
 
This book suggests that by clearly separating factual observations, feelings, needs, and the resulting requests, acknowledging vulnerable feelings and needs, and using listening tools, we can defuse confrontations, become more effective communicators, and become more at peace with others and with ourselves.
 

Games People Play

Eric Berne, Penguin, 2010

An analysis of the psychological games we play in order to live with one another.

 

 


After the Affair: How to build trust and love again
Julia Cole, Vermillion, 2013

Examines the reasons why people embark on affairs and the effects on the person who has been betrayed.

 

 


The Relate Guide to Loving Yourself Loving Another
Julia Cole, Vermillion, 2008

A self-help guide explaining various aspects of self-esteem in relationships.

 

 


Overcoming Relationship Problems: A Self-Help Guide Using Cognitive Behavioral Techniques
Michael Crowe, Robinson, 2005

A CBT self-help book to help you deal with the difficulties that arise in close relationships.

 

 


How to Start a Conversation and Make Friends
Don Gabor, Simon & Schuster, 2001

Suggests ways to improve anybody's ability to communicate in business and social situations.

 

 


I'm OK, You're OK
Thomas Harris, Arrow Books, 2012

Seeks to explain how to gain to control of yourself, your relationships and your future - no matter what has happened in the past.

 

 


The Dance of Intimacy: A woman's guide to courageous acts of change in key relationships
Harriet Lerner, Harper Perennial, 2003

A guide intended to foster intimacy in all relationships.

 

 

 


The Whole Lesbian Sex Book
Felice Newman, Cleis Press, 2004

A comprehensive lesbian sex guide.

 

 

 


The Joy of Gay Sex
Charles Silverstein & Felice Picano, Harper Collins, 2004

A general reference on a number of diverse topics important to gay life and culture.

 

 


The Relate Guide to Better Relationships: Practical ways to make your love last
Sarah Litvinoff, Vermillion, 2008

The experience of Relate counsellors intended to help relationships to be sustained through honest communication and joint problem-solving.

 

 


The Relate Guide to starting Again: How to learn from the past for a better future
Sarah Litvinoff, Vermillion, 2008

Examines the lessons that might be learnt from a relationship that has ended. Includes self-assessment questionnaires, tasks, and discussion points intended to help reach a greater understanding of yourself and your relationship.


The Relate Guide to Staying Together
Susan Quilliam, Vermillon, 2008

Helps to decide whether your relationship is worth saving, understand why things have gone wrong, build an action plan to turn your relationship around, decide whether or not you need counselling support and build on the love that drew you together in the first place.


Intimate Partners: Patterns in Love and Marriage
Maggie Scarf, Ballantine, 2008

Seeks to examine how relationships work, how the past may influence them, the underlying causes of marital tension, the predictable stages of a relationship, and the role of sex as marital relationships evolve.

 


Is it Love or is it Addiction?
Brenda Schaeffer, Hazelden Publishing & Educational Services, 3rd edition May 2009

 

 

 


Overcoming Relationship Problems: A Self-Help Guide Using Cognitive Behavioural Techniques
Michael Crowe, Robinson Publishing, 2005

Based on proven CBT methods, the book will help you understand why conflict arises and show you how to negotiate a happier, more positive outcome. The reader will learn how to: sustain a long-term relationship; develop more effective communications skills; deal with sexual problems; cope with jealousy; and, develop negotiation skills.


Resurrecting Sex: Solving Sexual Problems and Revolutionising your Relationship
David Schnarch, 2003

This self-help book guides the reader to resolve difficulties in sexual relationships. The author offers strategies for finding the best in yourself and overcoming your sexual difficulties.

 

 


Overcoming Sexual Problems
Vicki Ford, Robinson, 2010

A CBT self-help book containing advice to help you overcome sexual problems.

 

 


The Sex Book
Suzi Godson, Cassell, 2002

An informative guide to gender-neutral conventional and unconventional sexual behaviour.

 

 


Women Without Sex: The truth about female impotence and other sexual problems
Catherine Kalamis, Self Help Direct, 1999

Seeks to explain key causes, and to examine treatments (including self-help).

 

 


The Relate Guide to Sex in Loving Relationships
Sarah Litvinoff, Vermillion, 2008

Includes practical tasks, quizzes and talking points intended to reveal how you have become the sexual person you are. Seeks to show how this insight can be used to create a sexual rapport that is tailor-made for your relationship.